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i was reading some data yesterday about people who have to have their bands removed or choose to, and how their weigh goes after removal. Those who had managed to identify their triggers etc/reasons for overeating, kept their weight off. Those who hadn’t, gained most of the weight back. I haven’t had formal counselling but i have been open with myself about why i relapse to poor food behaviour. To conquer your demons you absolutely HAVE to know them, face them then you can be aware when they sneak up on you and whisper in your ear. I have been determined to do this and this has led to me shouting at food in the house then binning it/pouring washing up liquid over it, having those same (silent!!!) convos in shops, standing in front of my danger foods, then walking away feeling triumphant 🙂 Over eating is a very personal matter – are you a happy foodie who just lacks discipline or are your demons a bit darker? Hungry in a poor childhood, a ‘brave face – r’ who puts on emotional bravery in challenging life situations (bitchy boss, etc) who then goes home and comfort eats covertly, or do you hate your size and eat more to punish yourself…. this can come from ‘fat’ comments throughout yr life, aimed to put you down even when you were just a bit chubby? You eat to re-inforce those comments, allowing the hater to hurt you over and over every time you overeat. ‘Failure, unattractive, nobody will want you’.. that type of thing sadly often from parents/partner. Those remarks are made to both hurt you and control you.On your knees, broken.you are easy to control. You have a bad day n you hear those comments when you are alone, and you reinforce them by overeating. And you hear the haters saying ‘see, i told you so’. It’s so very personal…. but please… however hard it is, try to identify your own demons, cos we all have them. You can be restricted right up to the wire, but if you continue to let your demons win, you will still overeat then just vomm up your food as it wont go through the band. That is not success, that is not the purpose of the band. You need to own your head, deal with your demons, find your self-esteem again … you can do this. You have taken a massive step in organising your surgery …. don’t let the demos wreck this journey for you. If any of this resonates with you, please don’t lift the lid on your Pandora’s box when you are in a low mood, bottle of shiraz at hand, on a dark night. Plan a time and place where you will be able to deal with your feelings in a supportive or lighter mood, with a counsellor or a trusted person if you wish. Wishing you strength from the bottom of my heart …. i know, cos i ve been there too. xx And dont be ashamed to outpour on here – I was 25 stone and i will be hear to help you if i can xx Sharing is not only therapeutic for you, it can help others identify and find their strength too. Sorry if this i a bit heavy, but our emotions are such a key part of our success. xx
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